Boundaries

"Barriers set relationships on a regressive course that leads to isolation.  Boundaries set relationships on a progressive course that leads to connection."
                                                        Lysa TerKeurst
                                                        Unglued (p. 85)

I can't remember a time in my life when I haven't struggled with boundaries.

I find it so hard to say the simple word "no" and to set limits on my behavior.

If I'm involved in a conversation, I don't want it to end.

If someone needs my help, I don't want to disappoint them.

If someone asks me for something, I don't want to to turn them away.

But painful lessons in reality have taught me that I can't be all things to all people - and I wasn't meant to be.  That's God's job.

When I try to give or be more than I am capable of I become depleted and defeated.  I shut myself off from others so I won't have to feel the disappointment of not meeting their expectations.  Walls of resentment become barriers and cut off healthy communication.

I am learning through God's grace that I cannot always be who others need me to be.  I will let others down and feel saddened by my weaknesses and limitations.  But ultimately these are only reminders that I am not God.  My job is to stay closely connected to Him through prayer and His Word so that I can discern the things I am truly called to do and leave the rest to Him through  faith.  My job begins with listening.

He has showed you, O man, what is good.  And what does the Lord require of you?  To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
                                                        Micah 6:8 (NIV)